Problems
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Negative
Results
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Rules
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Goals
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WRONG FOCUS:
Solely concentrating on others needs and problems. Analyzing
their motives and behavior. Asking questions only about others to
refocus the attention or escape. Telling stories about what they
did.
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Helps us avoid our
own issues. Makes us observers and not active participants.
Puts a safe (and lonely) distance between ourselves and others.
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RULE 1: Keep
your sharing focused on your own thoughts and feelings. Use "I"
statements consistently. Limit sharing to 3-5 minutes.
RULE 2: We are here to support one another. We will not
attempt to "fix" one another.
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Work on self.
Share personal needs, feelings, ideas and problems.
Allow time for all those who need to share.
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BREAKING
CONFIDENTIALITY: Telling outsiders what was said or done in
group. Gossip disguised as a prayer request.
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Violates trust and
safety.
Makes members afraid to share risky material.
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RULE 3:
Anonymity and confidentiality are essential requirements. What is
shared in the group stays in the group.
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Celebrate Recovery
is a
safe place for everyone.
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CROSS-TALK:
Interrupting people, asking questions, having a lengthy dialogue with
only one other member of the group.
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Members feel they
won't be able to finish sharing.
Feel their ideas or issues are not valued or important.
Feel like they won't get a chance to share.
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RULE 4: There
will be no cross talk. Cross talk is when two individuals engage
in dialogue excluding all others. Each person is free to express
feelings without interruption.
RULE 5: Offensive language has absolutely no place in a
Christ-centered recovery group.
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Listen respectfully
and
attentively to what others choose to share.
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